“I am a badass.
You wish you had more in life.
More success. More money. More happiness.
But, like Tantalus of the ancient Greek myths, what you desire seems to be just beyond your reach.
It’s frustrating, annoying, and demoralizing.
Sometimes you just want to throw up your hands in disgust and give up.
Don’t quit yet.
I’m going to tell you the secret to having everything you want in life.
And it’s so simple that you can do every day from the comfort of your home?
Learning to Be Uncomfortable
The main reason you don’t enjoy the success you desire is that to have more you need to get out of your comfort zone.
And that’s uncomfortable. (Uh… no shit Chuck!)
The truth is, people hate feeling uncomfortable. And that is what prevents them from having more in life.
At the risk of sounding like an asshole stating the obvious, it is very important that you understand this point.
We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are. – Max De Pree
If you are committed to getting more out of life, start today by building one simple habit.
Every day, for the next 30 days, take a frigidly cold shower for 30 seconds.
Nothing to it.
You’re not going to do it.
And you will continue to bemoan the fact that you don’t have everything that you want out of life.
If It’s Simple to Do, It’s Simple Not to Do
What does taking a cold shower have to do with having more success?
Think about it. A cold shower is simple to do. You’re in the bathroom by yourself, no one is there to check on you. You can even tell people that you do this every morning and nobody will know whether you did it or not.
But, you’ll know.
You will know if you were willing to put yourself through the discomfort of a frigid cold shower for half a minute.
And so begins the process of getting comfortable with discomfort.
If you do this one simple exercise, you will notice a small change in your outlook. When other people are sitting around complaining about one minor annoyance after another, you’ll be thinking to yourself, “that’s not so bad…”
After a while, you will notice your willingness to try new things.
You’ll start standing a little taller.
You’ll be more open to challenges and difficulties.
After a month, you will notice that things that annoyed you in the past won’t even register anymore.
But I’m Uncomfortable in My Life Already…
“Wait, Chuck, my life is already full of discomfort…”
- sitting in traffic every day
- going to a job that I don’t like
- dealing with people who I can’t stand
- paying bills to companies who overcharge me
- leaving me exhausted and disconnected from my family
I get it, as the Buddha said, “life is pain…”
But there are two kinds of discomfort.
There’s the kind that is thrust upon you.
It sticks itself in your face like the gun of a mugger. You have to deal with it. You don’t like it but you have to do something about it.
Then there’s the other kind of discomfort. It’s voluntary.
It’s the one that you have a choice.
Where other people avoid it, you embrace and move into it.
While other people are…
- sitting on the sofa, you’re going to the gym
- complaining about cutbacks and layoffs, you’re learning new job skills
- saying their partner doesn’t love them anymore, you’re learning how to be a more loving partner
And that makes all the difference in the world.
The Path of Least Resistance
Electricity, like people, takes the path of least resistance. In the U.S., it’s now mandatory to have a green grounding wire for all electrical outlets. It gives the electricity an easier path to go through other than a human body. That little wire saves people’s lives from death or injury from electrocution.
That’s a good example for the path of least resistance.
On the other hand, with people, it’s the opposite.
Following the path of least resistance begins a path down a slippery slope.
Today, you do what is easier. Tomorrow, you do what is even easier. And on, and on, and on…
Soon, your resilience, grit, and temerity have all but disappeared.
You do not have the willpower to do what is needed to have more success, money, or happiness.
And you suffer, dreaming of a better life that is always just a little beyond your reach.
Lessons from the Mat
Are you going to do it?
Are you going to step up and take the challenge? Or, are you going to sit back and be comfortable?
One reason why this site has a martial arts focus is that, in my experience, I know no other people, other than martial artists, who were more focused on living a life of voluntary discomfort.
Nobody forced them,
- to dish out their hard-earned money every month to get beat up on
- to face their fears every week sparring, getting thrown around, or choked out
- to risk bruises, muscle aches, or even injury and still go to work the next day
Martial artist deal with this discomfort every day. For years.
For no other reason than they want to fulfill a personal need to grow, learn, and to live a life of personal development.
Put It on the Mat
I’m not asking you to join a martial arts studio, though it would be great if you did.
What I am asking you is that if you desire to have more in life, do one simple thing every day that makes you uncomfortable.
Take a cold shower for 30 seconds every day.
I promise you, it will change you.
Who knows, after a month, you might up the ante by going for a full minute or 5 minutes.
Could you imagine?
If you are willing to be uncomfortable, very uncomfortable, for a full 5 minutes straight, what else would you be willing to do?
What other people would be shying away from, you would be running toward.
What stops other people in their tracks, you would look forward to with enthusiasm, excitement, and exhilaration. You would feel alive while other people would be cowering in fear.
It all starts today with one 30 second shower.
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If you feel this article would help someone you know, I would really appreciate if you shared it with them.
If you look around, some people doing great work.
- customers are lining outside their door
- they charge more but it doesn’t seem to matter
- they are the go-to expert in their community
But how did they get so good?
More importantly, can you be as good, if not better, than them?
Nobody Starts Out Great
Making comparisons is a trap. We all know this but sometimes it’s really difficult not to compare yourself to others.
This is especially bad when starting a new business. If you’re looking around to what other people are doing and how well they are doing, you’re making a big mistake. What you’re seeing is just a snapshot. Not the full story.
Every teacher I studied with was great at something, that’s why they were my teachers. But when I compared myself to my teachers, I forgot about the years, sometimes decades, it took for them to be great.
And you might be doing the same…
You’ve read the stories.
Man builds a business with Reddit and quits his job 3 days later.
Such stories sound great, don’t they? They’re inspirational. Exciting.
And perhaps you thought, ‘hey, that could be me.’
But what those success stories don’t tell you are the thousands of failures, false starts and tragedies.
In the U.S., 50% of small businesses fail within 5 years. And within 10 years, that number grows to 64%!
So if you start your business today, chances are high you might fail within a few years, too.
A few years ago, I made a big mistake
Taking the Steps to Live Your Life Fully
Are you struggling to get a handle on your life?
You know what you want out of life. You even know what you need to do to get there. But you just get knocked off of your path by life’s outside forces. Living your life fully and making you a priority can be tough but it is the only way that you will be able to achieve your goals and dreams.
Being a Black Belt – Physically
For most people, running is a “single speed” activity. Adding variety to your running program not only reduces the monotony and chances for injury but will also increase strength, endurance and performance.
Sure, we all want to look like a badass with the six-pack abs and the biceps to make a Mr. Universe cry. But there’s looking strong and then there’s functional strength. Developing functional strength allows you to live your life fully by boosting your strength, agility, endurance and mental resilience.
Try it today.
Being a Black Belt – Mentally
You’ve undoubtedly heard of the benefits of meditation, reducing stress, improved focus and physical health. It also seems as if everyone is advocating meditation, from a U.S. Congressman, an engineer from Google and even some of the world’s most successful business owners.
Living your life fully by staying in the present is often touted as one of the greatest benefits of meditation. But what if sitting down quietly is creating more stress, guilt and anxiety rather than peacefulness? Are there any other options?
The simple answer. Yes.
“It ain’t what you don’t know that get you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” – Mark Twain
Wouldn’t it be great if everybody would just realize how smart you are and take your advice at face value? Why don’t they get it? You’re an expert, you know what you’re talking about. Right?
Sometimes it’s just not that simple. The answer to the question is not as simple as you would like to believe. And here’s why.
Being a Black Belt – Emotionally
Relationships, no different from training, may be easy to start and you enjoy the “honeymoon” period. But what happens after the honeymoon is over? How do you keep the flames of love alive?
It is believed that living a full life is built on strong family relationship. Learn these 3 secrets to keep your relationship strong.
It’s all in your head? Or is it?
Who can you depend on for your mental health? Big Pharma? Your therapist, who, if she actually did her job, she would lose the recurring income from her patients? What if it all you had to do was to put the intention to get better firmly in your awareness? Would that be enough?
Being a Black Belt – Spiritually
It is too easy as you work on building your business to get distracted by your material goals and rewards. What is your business growth, profitability and social shares? While these metrics may be important, it is often just as important to keep a sense of perspective to your achievements.
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Gandhi
You’ve probably seen the above quote before. I see it almost daily on my commutes in West Los Angeles. But where to start and what to do. Here are 5 simple steps that can have a huge positive impact on our world.
Being a Black Belt – Financially
If you don’t know what’s going on in your business, how do you know how well you are doing? More importantly, how do you know you’ll still be in a business a year from now? If you’re in business, you know you need an online presence but what you might not know is how to measure the performance of that presence. Read John Jantsch‘s take on what you need to know.
With everything you need to learn and do to keep your business running, the last thing you want to do is to keep up with the ever-speeding locomotive of business technology and innovations. But what are you going to do? How can you hire someone if you don’t know what is possible in the marketplace?
Check out this very helpful article and infographic to get a handle on tech and hiring tech talent.